How Can a Single Man Become a Father?

By (embryologist) and (babygest staff).
Last Update: 10/24/2016

To be a father even as a bachelor is an increasingly common desire among men. The possible options for this are adoption, co-parenthood and surrogacy.

Although this article focuses on explaining the path to parenthood through surrogacy, we will comment briefly on the other options a man has to be a single father.

Paternity Options for a Single Man

When a single man wants to have a child, that is, be a father without a woman, he has the following options:

  • Adoption
  • Co-parenthood
  • Surrogacy

Co-parenthood consists of having a child with a woman without her being her partner. The situation would be similar to that of a family whose parents have divorced. The child will have a father and a mother but these will not be united by a loving bond. It’s kind of like sharing education and parenting.

This option is complicated, since it will be necessary to establish agreements regarding the education of the future child, the responsibilities of each parent, etc.

Adoption, both national and international, is another alternative for a man to be able to fulfill his desire for fatherhood without the intervention of a woman. It is not easy either, as there are many and varied requirements to be considered “fit” to adopt. Certain health, economic, social, etc. conditions are required.

Like the previous ones, surrogacy has advantages and disadvantages. These are detailed below.

Surrogacy for single men

Surrogacy is the only reproductive process that allows a single man to be the biological father without having to involve another woman in the responsibility of parenthood, mainly for two reasons:

  • The woman who offers to carry the baby, although she is a fundamental part of the process, has no rights or obligations over it. Therefore, their involvement after birth disappears.
  • The man who wants to become a father can provide the genetic endowment (the sperm) and resort to the donation of eggs for the creation of the embryo that will give rise to the future child.

Access to this technique is not universal and there are few surrogacy destinations for single men. In fact, currently only the United States and Canada offer sufficient security and legal guarantee.

Another reason why many men cannot be fathers through this method is the high cost.

There are many steps that must be followed to finally reach the birth of the child and each of them involves a cost: choice of agency to find the surrogate and egg donors, compensation to both women involved, costs arising from pregnancy, lawyers, in vitro fertilization treatment (IVF), medical insurance, stay of the future father in a country other than his own, etc..

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FAQs from users

I want to be a single dad and I’ve been told that Greece is a good and cheap option, is it true? I find a lot of information contradictory.

By Andrea Rodrigo (embryologist).

Greek law recognizes surrogacy as an altruistic act that can be performed by a woman to help a marriage or another unmarried woman. Single men or gay couples are excluded. There is still a long way to go before Greece can be considered a suitable destination. In the meantime, and since it is not accepted by law, a single man or a gay couple is simply forbidden access to surrogacy in this country.

How much does surrogacy cost for single men?

By Andrea Rodrigo (embryologist).

The total cost is variable. Broadly speaking, a single man who decides to undergo a surrogacy process could spend between 80,000-100,000 Canadian dollars. However, this depends on the clinic chosen and other factors, so it would be more convenient to make a visit to get a personalized quote.

How does the surrogacy process work to have a child as a single parent?

By Andrea Rodrigo (embryologist).

There are several steps in the process. Among them, the first step is to choose the country where the technique will be performed. Afterwards, it will be necessary to choose the pregnant woman and the donor. In order to do this, a subrogation agency must be contracted in the country of destination.

Other important steps are the contracting of medical insurance to the parties involved, the in vitro fertilization (IVF) process or the determination of filiation.

What is the fastest way to become a father without a partner?

By Andrea Rodrigo (embryologist).

As you can read in the article, a single man who has the desire to have a child has three options: adoption, co-parenting, and surrogacy.

In the first two cases, the time to have a child will depend on how long it takes to receive acceptance for adoption and how long it takes to find a woman who wants to share paternity, respectively.

These are generally more complicated options than surrogacy, although it will depend on each case.

Suggested for you

As we’ve discussed, adoption is another option for single men to be fathers. If you want to know what all the formalities are, you can continue reading here: How can you adopt a child in United States? or Adopting in the United Kingdom: – How Does it Work?

Specifically, men who want to adopt a child when they are child will have to meet a number of requirements if they want to go abroad. You can find out about this here: Single parent adoption.

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Authors and contributors

 Andrea Rodrigo
Andrea Rodrigo
Embryologist
Bachelor's Degree in Biotechnology from the Polytechnic University of Valencia. Master's Degree in Biotechnology of Human Assisted Reproduction from the University of Valencia along with the Valencian Infertility Institute (IVI). Postgraduate course in Medical Genetics. More information about Andrea Rodrigo
Adapted into english by:
 Marie Tusseau
Marie Tusseau
Babygest Staff
Editorial Director of Babygest magazine in French and English. More information about Marie Tusseau

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