Hello, my wife needs a surrogate due to MRKH syndrome but we still don’t understand how does surrogacy work if it’s with a surrogate… How do they put the baby on her? I thought surrogacy is only done via sex with another woman or artificial insemination….03/09/2018 at 15:01
No, the only technique used in surrogacy arrangements is not artificial insemination (AI). Not to speak about intercourse. Natural insemination is NEVER used as a fertilization method in surrogacy. The number of legal risks involved are too many. As for surrogacy using artificial insemination, that is, traditional surrogacy, this option is falling into disuse due to the number of risks involved as well.
IVF surrogacy is perfectly possible. Let me explain you why. An embryo is created in the laboratory using your eggs and sperm (i.e. the eggs and sperm of the intended parents). The resulting embryo is transferred to the uterus of the surrogate. In classical IVF, the steps involved are the same, step the embryo transfer (the embryo is transferred back to the intended mother’s womb). The ultimate goal is to achieve a pregnancy in the surrogate. Once pregnant, she will carry the child until birth.
I hope this helps,
Best03/12/2018 at 09:50
Why only intercourse or intrauterine insemination? IVF with surrogacy is another option to do it.03/27/2018 at 07:17
Dear Rana F,
One should not be confused and think that surrogacy is an assisted reproduction treatment that can be chosen as one’s first choice. Each treatment has its indications. For example, there’s no need for a woman who meets the minimum requirements for undergoing Intrauterine Insemination (IUI) to start with IVF the first time. Only if IUI doesn’t work after several attempts, her doctor would suggest to move on to IVF. And the same applies in the case of surrogacy, egg donation, sperm donation, etc.
I recommend that you visit this post to learn more: Infertility & Surrogacy – What Are the Medical Reasons for Surrogacy?
I hope I made myself clear,
Best!03/27/2018 at 07:52
Hey, Robert, I hope you are well. IVF is not what you think it is. It comes under the list of assisted conceptions. It is artificial insemination. Everything is done in an artificial manner. The egg and the sperm will be formed together into an embryo in the laboratory. Everything will be done in a very systematic manner. For the process make sure to visit a clinic with a high success rate. The doctors should be experienced. It is really important to research properly. My sister is planning to opt for IVF. She is going to be attending this meeting before she makes a decision. I have asked her to write down all her confusions down. This way she will not forget any important question. Attending seminars and conferences is really time-saving as well for the future.08/10/2018 at 15:00
Hi Robert! I think your wife is really doing a great job. I think surrogates are amazing women. So, yeah! Things work that way, They transfer it in Lab for IVF and they transfer it into women’s uterus or womb. Still, she explained well. STAY STRONG! There is nothing to be worried about. It’s very common and great cause. I hope she does an amazing job. Stay blessed both. xx08/10/2018 at 18:34
You are doing a great job. I really appreciate you. I know it’s not easy for you to carry another child in your womb. But you are such a strong lady. To be a surrogate of the same gender to different concept for me. Anyways, Every person wants his baby. I so excited to see that you have twin baby. I know its difficult for you at the time of delivery. But I think the doctor is right. C-section is more suitable for you. Take care of your health. I wish you will have a safe delivery. Best of luck for the future.08/18/2018 at 13:15
Hi Robert. I hope you are doing great. So sorry to hear about your wife’s infertility. I know it is the more painful thing than any other in this world. You should support your wife this time. IVF and surrogacy are the good cure for infertility. They are blessings of science. Both have made it possible for an infertile woman to become a mother. Surrogacy is a process in which a surrogate mother keep your baby in her womb and give birth to your baby. IVF is a process in which husband’s sperms and wife’s eggs are fertilized and embryos are transferred to mother womb. Both are good but I am in strong favor of surrogacy. It has more success rate than IVF. I would suggest you choose surrogacy. It would help you a lot.08/18/2018 at 13:52
Hey Robert, Have you both been diagnosed thoroughly, by a medical specialist? You need to have specific indications of infertility, in order to attempt surrogacy. It’s an extensive legal process. I think the other two comments do make clear about what it is. You need to know that artificial insemination uses your sperm and your wife’s eggs to fertilize a baby. It is then transferred to the uterus of a healthy surrogate. The first thing that you need to know is you will need legal documents to attempt the whole process. The surrogate should be registered, healthy and financially sound. If not, at least paid well by the agency. So she can take care of herself and the baby.08/28/2018 at 18:40
MRKH is an infertility disease. I am sorry that your wife has this disease. Surrogacy is a safe procedure. And surrogacy is done two ways, with intended mother eggs and intended father eggs. The other way of the eggs are not viable then the egg donation is taken place. I have seen couples having succesfull surrogacy with i diffuclty. So, I would suggest you to go for gestational surrogacy. This will definlty will work out for you08/28/2018 at 21:03
I’m so sorry you are going through this.
All of my local friends were having babies in quick succession. I was so happy for them but every announcement caused real pain too! I have never voiced this but it’s always easier to hide behind a screen. When dealing with infertility, I felt both comforted in knowing there were others out there going through this roller coaster journey and pained that it impacts so many of us.. I’m sorry. Each path is different. Here, if your dr told you cannot bear pregnancy there’s still the option you may count on – surrogacy.01/07/2020 at 13:48
It’s so sweet to find a man here 🙂 Your wife should be a really happy woman 🙂 Wish you all the best!12/03/2018 at 16:27
Here one should be aware of legal basis of surrogacy for each country. Some countries either prohibit surrogacy or allow surrogacy agreements only the surrogate is unpaid. For those countries that allow surrogacy the laws typically give all parental rights to the surrogate. This is so until a court process can transfer the rights from her to the intended parents. In these countries the surrogate has the right to keep the baby. But this will never happen in Ukraine, for example. Surrogacy there is well regulated there. Under Ukrainian law, the child belongs to intended parents from the moment of conception. Once the baby is born, the birth certificate is issued with the names of the intended parens. The surrogate has no standing to keep the baby or claim any rights. This is true even if there were no biological relation between the child and intended parents. I’ve got a plenty of info as we’ve been already through. Feel free to ask, or at least if you want some steam off I’m here. Sending you huge warm supportive hugs.01/07/2020 at 13:45
Hi all. We didn’t tell much people about our journey at the beginning too. This was our mutual decision. We both didn’t want friends and colleagues at work to know much about the troubles we were facing. I was truly afraid of being sympathized with. That’s a real nightmare to pass. WE just didn’t want more ‘supportive’ replies, like ‘You’ve still got plenty of time’, ‘Relax, it will happen’, or ‘Friend of my friend conceived after 15 yrs of ttc!’ etc. Because we didn’t want to wait for 10 yrs unless it happens!! We wanted to love and to live and to be happy right now, not some other time in the future. This led us to fertility treatments after unsuccessful yrs of ttc. You know, a fertility expert always wants you to actively ttc for a year (If you’re under 35) to get you into more investigations and then the treatment plan. We passed 7 rounds of IVF shots with own eggs.10/28/2020 at 08:58
Hi Luv. I’m so sorry to hear about your infertility strugglings. Those are devastating definitely. You must have the courage and strength to move forward. I’ve been there too. For a long time, I should say. Starting from ttc 3+yrs, then moving to actual treatments. Our first Dr decided to start with the less invasive options, like medicated cycles with monitoring which brought us no baby. Then he wanted us to pass several rounds of IUI – no baby. We both started feeling depressed and discouraged about the process. The thing IUI is much cheaper to opt for turned out to be a complete disaster. We actually could pass the IVF ICSI cycle or any other procedure with much higher success rates.
Finally, we switched the docs and clinics. Moved forward with using our own eggs again with IVF as our new Dr felt very positive about it. Passed 3 rounds with no luck. Then we turned to opt for surrogacy abroad. Because of more affordable costs. That was going to be our last attempt. If no luck we’d have to spend yrs saving up for the treatments again.
I remember our first visit. They seemed very busy and a vivid place. Our third Dr so far told us we made the right decision about surrogacy and that in our very case it was the best solution. Our Dr made more investigations. She reviewed our previous med histories. So finally we went down the road.11/03/2020 at 09:03
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